Increase your mental power to eliminate conflicts

You will be definitely known as a successful person when you accomplish most of  your endeavors with perfection. During the phase of maximizing your achievement, you will face many constraints and you will be submerged with conflicts. Now, if you fail to resolve those conflicts, which often smothers you, your rate of success will be less glorified. And, unless you increase your ability to solve or avoid all sorts of conflicts and contradictions to the extent possible, your leadership role will not be acknowledged. When you are able to achieve this expertise, you get a feeling of contentment of living an ideal life. You will understand the meaning and purpose of life. Once you know how to cross the barriers of various conflicts, you will be at peace most of the time and people will need you for guidelines whenever they face similar types of problems. We mostly rely on external accomplishments, for example name, fame, status, power of wealth, our friend circles and our ability to commingle with the higher echelon of the society. We are so much so bogged down with these pompous achievements that we forget to relish the bliss of the natural sequence of our lives. We completely ignore our feelings for others and we are not supportive and also not attentive to our hurts, anxieties, intuition and inner turmoil, and needless to say that these are the impediments, snatching the glittering power of living. In fact, these factors, which we neglect erode the quality of life.  We brag and holler of whooping artificial achievement ignoring the real worth of life. These negative qualities act upon on us like social virus and destroy us. We must be very careful to attend these disorders. This is a part of our ignorance and foolishness to accept these social viruses. We must observe our inner contradictions and take remedial actions against those viruses so that  peaceful happenings occur more in our life. But we fail to increase the power of our observations.

We mostly desire to achieve those things, which we want and in this process, we invite many unwanted conflicts and these conflicts cause and aggravate our pain and sufferings. We lean into mental distress because of our inability to resolve the said conflicts. What are those conflicts and contradictions? What makes you think that those contradictions cannot be eradicated? When there is a contradiction, there will be a struggle and this struggle makes you a rebellion. In this rebellious state, you behave like a rude and become insolent human being.  It also creates bitterness and you will be always in a spirit to fight or quarrel and you will be in the vengeance mood to conquer others so as to defeat their wishes. This will be termed as hostility.  If you can avoid this sequence, there will be an inner peace. The issue of conflict appears when you find differences between “what is the real fact” and “what one wants to accomplish.” This is the definition of conflict and in this conflict, friction exists.  We seldom study the issue of “what is the real fact.” Since, one is so tied up with his progress of achievement and so much so interested to snatch success, he is blind or ignoring the ground reality. We are always in a hurry to achieve whatever we dream for against the things we possess.  Hence, you are not able to maximize your achievement. It is not that what one has, which makes a difference, but how one uses, what one has, is the  crux of the real scenario of eruption of any conflict.

To cite an example how you watch various things in life, you must learn to observe the breathing pattern when you inhale and exhale.  If your observation is accurate, you will find breathing is really a pattern of habit and it is really a joy. Without this breathing, you are dead. You should introspect whether observing your breathing provides you joy or not. The mind is so engrossed in “becoming” that you forget to see the “being.”  Observing the breathing joyfully, your heart will be fully breathing, and this pattern of breathing will then become a point of celebration.  Since, we have taken breathing as granted; we take it granted out of the illusive fact that it will always provide a joy. But this is not the fact.  The experience of joy will arrive only on close observation. When you perform a physical exercise with full attention, it will be like a meditation. When you carry out any exercise attentively, you will feel that your action of exercise is your whole being in the cosmos. To explain more, a fruit is a product of its tree. The tree produces the fruits when it is nourished with water, sunlight, air, fertilizer and medicine. The whole fact lies in the production of a particular fruit, which is a harmonious effect of many activities. With this type of explanation, if you do your exercise or any other work, you will be in communion with yourself.  In this type of living, a separate intellectual gate opens for you to decide more harmony. 

Then, the life becomes a movement from one point to another point with joy. It is a joy, because you  get involved with the movement of presence.  At this point, there will be no contradiction and conflict.  To achieve your goals, there must  be a charismatic plan and you must ensure that there should not be any gap in between your goal and plan. Your  desire to achieve a goal is perfectly all right. Only thing, you need to increase mental ability to negate any conflict, which may jeopardize your plan, but all these things are to be considered with a sense of joy and deep involvement. When you think in this way, conflict is eliminated.  In this sphere of thoughts, there will be no superfluous actions and contradictions. Of course, there is a conflict of “now” when you do not get the things, which you hunch for. Then the conflict erupts in the form of frustration, dejection, ill feelings and sorrow. But if you are to able to increase your mental power, you will  reduce the gravity of the conflicts or eliminate the same and you will achieve your target. But unless you  remove those conflicts, you will fail to enjoy the life, your achievement and its beauties.