Tuesday, July 3, 2018

Be confident all the time

Be confident all the time
Some people are born with a fighting instinct. They don’t get nervous in the midst of any struggles. Even it is severe, they don’t show their anxieties and nervousness. They always seek opportunities on how to overcome the problems. They believe in one thing that if they lose their temperament and confidence level, chances will be there to get defeated miserably. They give importance to the fact that to survive in life and to sustain in the competition in today’s fiery world; you have to maintain a high level of receptivity. You also need to be slow and steady.  If you are fast to accomplish all your activities whether it is small or significant, not necessarily, you will be a big achiever.  Further, whatever may be your goals, you have to induce positive attitudinal feeling to become a lucky person.  Without the same, nothing is possible. Then, you have to target your goals in such a way so that you achieve the same steadily. The sense of well-being must be your ideal benchmark. You need not stretch yourself too far to reach any target.  Your stretching beyond capability may altogether yield a negative output and put you in a mental stigma.  A slow performer is not at all a bad one provided he has put efforts steadfastly.  The famous story of hare and tortoise is known to all, and the same is a burning example that fastness means not extraordinary results all the time.   How to become more receptive and keep a control over your mental and physical fastness? Some are always in a hurry to complete every state of affairs they face, and some others are mentally so fast that sitting in their chairs, they can solve any problem happening far away. The quality is laudable, but it produces desired results once or twice, not always. To have a control on your far stretchy inclination, you need to rely on the power of meditation.  Carrying out this technique, you calm yourself which will save you from the dissipated energy. You can always get the power of energy when you are slow, receptive and you have a control over your thoughts, words, and actions. If you stroll, you gather speed. But from the beginning itself, if you walk fast, you will cross the small lane quickly, but by the time you reach the main road, you will be thoroughly exhausted. But going slow, you remain energetic without any feeling of exhaustion. The simple reason for saving energy is because of your following slowness. As it takes the time to accumulate power, the same is the case with its spending.  The more power you acquire throughout the day, the more you will be cheerful. A happy mind is the abode of an energetic body means you are more proactive to produce the best results in your field of activities.  The experts in any field follow this theory of "slow but steady only wins the race." As speed and energy have a bearing on the progress of our life, you also receive new momentum and grace of God which is slow. God likes and appreciates those people, who perform on a continuous basis. God acknowledges the people's honesty, sincerity, and dedication for the purpose of bestowing blessings for their success in various endeavors. It is a fact that without the divine power; it is impossible to climb stairs and reach the peak level of success.  Further, when you are slow, you can record every bit of your activities being discharged by you very minutely, and you will not lose energy so fast means you will not be exhausted physically and mentally.  Being slow means, you should not be the backbencher. It only says that you have to control your impulsive actions.  Precisely that is the reason; some people when they return from their working remain remarkably fresh.  Not only that, they even assist their family members to finish the household activities. 

Many people don’t like to be slow at all.  If any idea comes to their mind, they gear up fast to discharge the ideas into realities.  Because of impulsive choices, the decision may not be that rational.  It is an excellent characteristic attribute to convert any brilliant idea into a practical shape, but we find that eighty percent decisions taken out of impulsiveness do not bring the productivity as envisaged.  For example, while roaming in a mall, you come across an electronic gadget which looks to be attractive and useful, but not required by you at that time and without giving any rational thoughts of the other aspects; you purchase only to repent afterward. It is merely an action of superfluous not giving much responsible thinking.  Mostly it is based on calculated risk. Also, the impulsive actions are dangerous particularly when we are in a depressed mood. In this mental condition we eat more, we buy unnecessarily; we argue without any solid base, or only we want to ensure to finish any activity as fast as possible.  To come out from this type of dark frame of mind, you need to be very receptive and be slow in all your activities at least for the time being to have a control on the overall situation. The actions taken out of impulsion and then showing repentance for the activities discharged eliminate energy. Then the positive frame of mind exhausts. All types of negative energies flock together in your mind which ultimately makes you angry, restless, unproductive, and you remain irritated mostly. You develop a habit of watching television more than which is required; you indulge excess eating to get rid of all these chaos, and finally become tired and sleep more.  The result you put more weight and invite health hazard. Another concrete example is the game.  If you consider slow and steady throughout the match, you will remain energetic for long, and guide the team enthusiastically to win the game.  If you are slow and a bit receptive, you can calculate the other people’s strategy deeply.   

The proverb says that one can beat opponents in their strategically move. If you are fast in your thoughts and actions, perhaps you will mistake the opponent’s movement.  In the game of cricket, the slow blower always makes havoc in winning the match.  That does not mean the fast bowler has any role, but the slow bowler is more efficient when the event takes a crucial stage.  But some pundits opine that quick and the spontaneous actions are always the best, particularly in any artistic activity.  But rapid response does not necessarily produce perfect expression in any art, poem, painting or any other creative activities.  In art, one needs to be very careful to ensure a proper effect on the minds of the target audiences.  Any actions taken based on impulsive behavior and with fastness may even destroy the career of an established artist.  For a performer, he must be cautious in approach to reach any spontaneous decisions.  Spontaneity is an act; you cannot mistake as an urge for the strategically thinking.  In fact, you become more creative when you work slowly, consider carefully and perform steadily.  Success will take its time to arrive. You're becoming fast does not guarantee you're achieving all milestones.  Even it happens; it is not the case of every day.  To create any artistic output correctly, you must embrace upon a contemplative mood so that creation becomes perfect.  It not only touches your sense of accomplishing but also it creates an everlasting impression on everyone for whom you target the output. Taking any action only on the base of speed and exercising your spontaneity is a risky affair, and will spoil the beauty of artistic beauty.

Almost all the creators of artistic creations are great thinkers, rational performers, and support in believing of time versus output.  Fast action is not the precursor of the entire production.  One needs to be slow and steady and not to lose level of confidence to win any competition whether the same is related to social or professional.

Tuesday, October 25, 2016

Who says that Death is an enigma?

If you happen to read the holy sonnet no 10 of John Donne’s “Death, be not proud,” you will find that he has challenged the supreme power of mortality. He says death itself is dead. No one should be afraid of him. In fact, he narrates that why should we afraid of him, if we lead our lives ideally.  In reality, of course, we are afraid of death considering the same as a monster. If we receive the news of the death of our family members, our neighbors or our friends, we get dejected, and not able to come out from the grief for a long time. In this way, we develop a perception and make a cynical inscription about death in our mind. But if we consider the sequence of death as a natural phenomenon, we will be in a position to adjust our thoughts.  It is our culture to view death as a not that peaceful happening. Without debating the inner meaning of the holy sonnet of Donne, one can say that death is also a blissful sequence of life. One who is born has to die, and there is no alternative. But if you lead a meaningful life, you will take death as a part of life. The Buddhists meditate to seek the nature of death for three fundamental reasons.  Firstly, it makes us conscious of the impermanence and shortens of life and makes our life purposeful.  Secondly, contemplation about death makes us understand its realities. Through the deep level of understanding of this process, the phenomenon of mortality familiarizes us with dying and we become aware that our life is not immortal.  Thirdly, contemplation of death provides us an opportunity that life has a limitation of age, and so it is precious.  It then makes us realize that let us live fully.  As per Buddhist monks, death is “the separation of the  most subtle body and mind from the more gross aspects of the body.”  As per them,  one should not consider death as time, but it is a gradual process.  A living person consists of gross and subtle mind and body. The definition of this body means the physical body, which consists of muscles, fat, and bones.  The mind is all about thoughts as to how you control and utilize the same.  It also includes feelings and mental stresses.
When death is soon approaching in life, the coarser mind stops and gives rise to subtle mind.  Our mind is getting filled with vacuity. We become unconscious.  Death happens when all our responsibilities are over.  If you feel that you need to continue with your routine activities for more time on the earth, you can afresh concentrate on the being of yours, and do all the necessities.  The physical sign of death, consciousness leaving your body are the cessation of heat from the chest, which is the region of the heart. Through exploitation of heart, you can identify conceptual idea of death and also develop a habit to apprise, whenever there is a new issue of development.  When you are aware that the consciousness has left, then the body becomes an empty shell.  The cycle of death is only over when soul ultimately leaves one aggregate of gross and subtle body and attaches another aggregate.  We always talk about that the new being, which must be a person only.  Depending upon the karmas, speech, task and accomplishment he has done at the time of death, he can take the physical entity after reborn as “Preta," or in some other forms.  The Preta God could be a hungry ghost, Asura (a jealous God), and even a God himself.  In Buddhism, if one commits suicide, he will be condemned for an extended period.  Another reason for having committed suicide is full of negativities and frustration.  Apparently, this phenomenon gets replaced in the next birth of the particular person. The process of reincarnation happens within a period of 30 days. The state of bliss at the time of death is important from a future point of view.  Buddhism suggests not disturbing the dying person showing extra baggage of emotions.  Such an appearance and attachment to the dying person may jeopardize his dying seriously. His soul may also be affected, who knows? Finally, there will be a change in the process of reincarnation. So; it is always advisable that you allow the person go peacefully.
If you lead your life following an ideal code of conduct and remembering God in all your endeavors with a religious fervor, you will never be afraid of death. In fact, many people work and maintain regular routines in their lives till the last day of life without bothering much that death will be a painful incident shortly for them. When the time comes, they only pray, chant some hymns may be in the lying position or tell the family members to make them hear religious songs, and in the midst of the same, finish their last breathing. There are even people who die without the knowledge of any of his family members in their sleep due to massive heart attack. Though it may not be a peaceful death, it is not that painful also. The individuals who are mostly afraid of death are those who have no in-depth idea of death at all. It is the end of the beautiful life, which God has kindly provided us, but we have not managed it rightly to the norms of ideal living. And in this process, we become gloomy whenever there is an incident of death, or we receive the information of end.of life.  

Sunday, August 14, 2016

The spirit of the Soul

When you die, your body is getting extinguished, but the soul leaves and enters another body.  This soul is the unchanging spirit that encompasses all the human beings.  Our body is like a cloth, which covers the soul, but this is the spirit for all your vibration means energy through which you perform all the actions being guided by that energy.  This soul is like a lamp, which is shining within yourself and guides you to perform all the activities either good or bad.  The soul is sheathed by three layers, namely mind, sense and flesh.  The mind is the inner layer, whereas the senses are the middle layer and the flesh is the upper layer.  When the mind and the senses are not aware of the energy (Bramha) within, people tend to become egoistic and ego then governs their all actions.  Ultimately, they are being guided by ego.


Our soul is eternal and the body is mortal. Knowing this well, we become obsessed with the physical, material and sensual aspects of life.  The more we show our attachment to our body, the more we become unhappy.  If we wish to liberate ourselves in life, we must search our self and induce self-realization.  Self-realization will make you not to feel that much obsessed with your body. If you delve into the psychological aspects, there are three states in the life of any human being.  They are – the waking state, the sleeping state and the dreaming state.  But a very few are aware of the fourth state, which is the intense concentration through which, if properly utilized, we can realize the true purpose of our life.  Mostly, we are governed by our senses and on the periphery without going in depth.  We are governed by our senses and we carry out our various functions as our mind guides us.  What we eat, what we buy and when we will sleep and what we could do to impress our friend, neighbors and our colleagues are the factors, by which we are propelled daily.  While performing all these activities, we seldom allot any time to think of our world within.


All of us have a centre of serenity, self-knowledge, and keenness to understand our ability and urge to keep peace almost all the time.  When we are able to recognize this centre of utmost importance, we acquire an experience of true freedom and in this stage, we overcome tension, anxieties, all types of fear, inferior complex and despondency, which always haunt us in our life.  We always hunch to have joy and fun.  We can obtain the same provided we try for the same, but for that, we have to arouse our inner self.  Once we are able to establish this fact, we can discover our own divinity.  Then you can automatically get rid of the environment of gloomy, pathetic and despair and you will be considering yourself as the infinite spirit of pure, true and everlasting blissful human being.  Today’s glamorous world is full of complexities and these environments cause stress and to keep you to avoid the same, you have to learn the consciousness reduction techniques. 


The meditation de-clutters your mind, relieves you from negativities and energies your nervous system.  It also increases your creativity, problem solving skills and makes you calmer. It guides you to embrace upon the path of harmonious living.  It increases your powers of love, forgiveness and making you ideal human beings.


Meditation increases your mindful awareness.  Through this awareness, you live in the present and enjoy the sequence of moment to moment living.  It enables you to get the best of your life.  It stops your restlessness and your approach for fragmented thinking.  It improves your concentration power, focus and memory.



You can consider the following steps to cultivate the theory of purification of the soul.

a)      Try to be silent for a defined period of time every day.  Ensure, your this practice is not disturbed.  Through this, you can improvise your true self. You will be able to arouse your inner power.


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b)      You must ensure breathing correctly, which is the primary energy of life.  This energy establishes the vital link between your body and mind.  This deep breathing is a unique and systematic pattern of increasing the power of your mind, which in turn, revitalizes your body.  This breathing exercise, when associated with yoga and meditation, you will be able to connect yourself with divine power, of course, it takes a long time.


c)      You must decide to serve others, help them to come out from distress.  Ensure to do maximum benevolent work for others.  You can extend your cooperation as much as possible and in as many as ways.


d)      You must learn the value of acceptance.  Without God’s blessings, you are not able to do anything though you feel that you have done. It is all His wishes, you only perform.  By God’s will, you search peace and you get the same.  Many things happen to us for which we are not aware.  Even we are ignorant to identify the reason and so, believe in God and trust Him.

If you accept the above management, your soul will be purified and a purified soul is the container of a good mind and healthy body.




Monday, July 11, 2016

What is life and death as per Buddhism?

What is life and death as per Buddhism?
As per Buddhism, the sequence of life and its death is a process of transformation from one stage to another.  Buddha said that all of us would pass away eventually as a part of the natural process of birth, old age, and death.  As per the creed of the Buddhism, and the mythological stories related therein once a seeker inquired from a Zen Master, “What is going to happen after death?”  The Zen Master replied, “I have no idea, rather I don’t know.”  The seeker got surprised because Zen Master is mostly the people who possess enlighten the soul.  Seeing the seeker’s surprising face, the Zen Master further said, “I am not the dead master.”
Life is enjoyable, but one has to enjoy within the ambit of the moral code of conduct.  God has created this beautiful world to spread love and establish the brotherhood; one must help others in their distress and receive God’s light which is the blessings of Him.  In the same way, death is also enjoyable, provided we live our lives as per the God’s wishes.  Death is a matter of experience.  One can have the feeling while dying, but once the death happens then, that experience cannot be shared with anyone. Either, it is a matter of bliss or gloomy.  How we lead our lives, how we had given shape to our lives during our living and serve the fellow beings, all these facts matter much what type of death we have to face.  Some people die peacefully in the midst of sleep for a sudden health problem, for example, due to heart failure. Some other faces so much, so difficulties for various socioeconomic constraints that they pray to God to take away their lives, and a few are so disturbed because of their chronic disease that ultimately they commit suicide.
To understand this conceptual subject, let us find out what is death?  To simplify, when the life ends means one is dead. It is the cessation of life.  At the same time, it is not so easy to answer what life is? Life is like a flow of the river.  If you want to maintain cleanliness, you can do, means you can lead a balanced life full of fun and frolic and also pain and sufferings.  But if you pollute the river with dirt, and you want to waste the precious moment of your life through engagement of frivolous and wasteful deeds and gossip, then you will be responsible for bringing a disastrous to your life. You have to consider the fact of life as the transient. It is a static curve which starts with your birth, and then you grow and reach boyhood, after that, adulthood and finally, old age grapples.  At that stage of life, you may remain fit depending on your lifestyle. Or you may be afflicted with many diseases which may even cause your death.  Even you are fit at old age, at some point in time; your life will end, means you will die.  Buddha calls this as ‘Suchness of life.’  As per Buddhism, death is not the end of life. In fact, Buddhists believe that death is the end of the physical body.  Why do we fear death?  As long as you are greedy for name, fame, wealth, various types of assets, you will always be under anxiety whether you can receive these, accumulate and then utilize the same. The reason for the tension is that you are not able to fulfill your desires.  The reason of fear is how quickly you can achieve the said milestone, and if you able to get how to manage, and how to keep the same under possession?  The fear of death comes from the fear ceasing to exist and losing one’s identity with all types of said material comforts. Since we are so accustomed in being recognized based on our name, fame, and wealth in the societies, we are worried under the pretension that any moment we may lose all the said comforts.

Krishna propounds in Gita in a more philosophical style of professing that there is no death. Only forms change because no one dies.  As per Him, this eternal truth is presented in Gita.  Life is a process of continuous activities, and so death takes place millions of times in the elaborate and colorful journey of an eternal life.  Death is just incidental.  It happens in between.  When we lose some of our beloved members, quite naturally, we become very aggrieved.  Gradually, we learn to sedate and continue to live without him/her. 

Though we miss them, and occasionally we remember them, we pray to Almighty to keep their souls in peace. But ultimately, death is a painful event.  The question is, can we avoid death?  No, you can only increase your longevity, but it is impossible to bypass death.  As stated above, when someone is much near and dear to you, and if he dies, you will be morose, but the greater the element of sadness of grief and personal loss, the more one tends to feel sorrow for one.
As per Mahayana tradition, it is known as ‘death awareness.’ This tradition is used to arouse fundamental interest in compassion. It helps people to comprehend the impermanence of life.  The said knowledge increases our courage and helps us to fight against the concept of death.  No sooner, you start fearing death; it is but natural that you have not understood the phenomenon of mortality in right perspective.  If you are in a position to view death from Buddha’s point of view, you can ascertain the fact that it is fundamentally faithful to support others when they are on the death bed.  At that time, if you comfort them and impart consolation to them, there are many active reactionary forces ahead in your life. You must know that the life is impermanent, and everything is in transient though life is the long continuum.  With these thoughts, you may lead a life of non-attachment.  Then, the dying person can do “bid adieu,” with a lovable face to all his friends, peers, and superior colleagues.  Seeing the miracle demeanor of the deceased person, you may question what is the beginning point?  Most of the people will believe that time has come and one who is going, let him go and we should pray for his soul is in peace. But that sentiment is not correct.  During the time of death, we must provide enough support to the person so that he can come out from the fear of death and accept the same with courage. As per Buddhism and the teachings of Buddha, “The time of death is a great opportunity for transformation for any sentient being that is aware while dying.

Saturday, July 9, 2016

Words are mightier than weapon

The spoken words are mightier than the weapon. You can ascertain this fact from your life also. We utter many words daily to our family members, friends, office colleagues, and acquaintances. Have we ever thought the power behind these words? Or do we take enough measures and analytical views before uttering words?  Have we ever recognized the fact that words once were spoken and if it hurts or not producing the exact effect as desired what could be the consequences?  There are many people exist in our societies which speak impromptu, and when they realize that their words backfire, they apologize or say ‘sorry,’ as if, they can use words as dim fit to be. It is like that you speak any words creating conflicts and then escape saying the above. Contrarily when you hear the words spoken by religious preachers, sages, prophets and spiritual masters we get enlightened, and their words act as a magic to purify our minds.  Though the effect may be ephemeral, yet the intensity is very high. Their magical words make us choose the right path, and propel us in the right direction so that we follow the course of ideal living.  The words uttered by these great souls have an electrifying effect, which removes our impurities and unwanted thoughts. Further, we will be inspired not to use words which hurt others.  We all are aware of the wisdom of this truth of the power of words, but in our real lives, we fail to comply with its essentials. Instead of using words with a correct melody, we prefer to follow the path of destruction by using all wrong and improper words.  Sometimes, our offensive and abusing words jeopardize the relationship so badly that we lose business dealings, trust, friendship and even cordial relationship with the spouses.  The bad words cause restlessness and anxiety.
People who are seekers of truth don’t indulge these negative tendencies of uttering odd words.  They are far above the narrow mindedness and they always focus on self-development and self-reform.  They have no time to insult others using derogatory words.  They always create a pleasant environment influencing others, and they distribute positive thoughts through their noble deeds and vocabulary.  Words are critical provided you act with love, faith, devotion and feeling for others opinion and thoughts.  That is why, you can identify the saints, sages, and spiritual masters very easily even in the crowd. They motivate people throwing words of spirits and motivation. Further, their actions are louder than words.  Their words in themselves are adding additional moral values.   For example, if you talk about humility, you need to practice the same. If we don’t show love to others, mere talking of loving nature is not sufficient. If we talk about lightheartedness, we have to show the same in reality.  People will listen to your words, but they can easily understand your intention.  If you say and you don’t do, you will be exposed soon. We must, therefore, have a watch on our words and exercise control.  Through the lives of saints and sages, God provides us the direction how to lead a moral life. A stable life has no place to blame others.  If you fail to achieve something, no one is responsible for the same.  As human beings, there is a tendency not to accept responsibility, but to accuse others.  If you like to become an established personality, you need to stop this accusation and using slanderous words. You need to ascertain the truth and remain steadfast in your goal. Many poets profess through their compositions that odd words spoken might have far-reaching consequences causing sufferings lasting for centuries.  It is like a small stone thrown into a quiet pond, the ripples of which reach far and wide.  A word can redeem, a word can hinder.  But if you minutely observe the words of spiritual-minded people, and follow the same in your daily life, your status may not go upward immediately, but you can rest assure that the same will not be lowered.  You can judge your real worth, not through your education, high profile in professional life or monetary power.  The real recognition come through your humility, selflessness and using kind words.  The humblest is the greatest virtue, and one needs to practice the same to become an ideal person. Then, he will get the blessings of divine love, which will help him to leave ego automatically.  He detaches from the importance of “I” and gives value to “we.” 
If you close your eyes, for a while, it looks to be dark until the time you open, but during this period, the sun does not lose its light. Similarly, your eye’s consciousness needs to be illuminated so that the same can radiate sun’s light even in your dark time.  Both your inner eyes and outer eyes need to be enlightened. What does it mean?  Your inner vision should yield outwardly.  You have to translate your good intentions into good deeds and words. The word has a powerful equation, and we all have to understand the same. So, if you use sweet, smooth, friendly and lovable words, you will always remain happy and make others joyous.

Friday, July 8, 2016

The art of forgiveness

The art of forgiveness

When you involve in a quarrel, a bitter relationship starts, and you or your opponent will find out an opportunity to humiliate each other. Unless it happens, both the parties will not keep quiet. Why is it so?  Because we believe in taking revenge rather than follow the art of forgiveness. Like the art of living, it is also an art. The more you can show forgiveness, the more you will be recognized by all.  In our daily lives, we face some bad experience, which is unavoidable. The two options are there when you meet bad experience. Don’t think much and completely ignore the incident.  If you are not able to bury the bad experience, the intensity of the gloomily and unhappiness will increase. If you prolong the altercations, then you are in a mood to take revenge. On the contrary, if you ignore or show let go attitude, then you follow the art of forgiveness. As per spirituality, showing forgiveness is a better option.
Forgiveness saves you from unwanted distraction, not alluring you to involve in unproductive works and finally saves your precious times. Further, you will be able to ensure not to escalate the issue, which may otherwise develop extraordinary tension. This art is an instant solution to any boisterous situation.  Contrarily, if you resort to the path of taking revenge, the problem will become complicated.  Forgiveness may not give immediate solution sometimes, but you get enough time to think deeply on the issue of quarreling.  During this period, who knows either you or your opponent may understand the situation thoroughly and bury the animosity through discussions?  When this type of situation occurs, mostly people blame others. It is always advisable to examine one’s role in the whole state of affairs.  For example, if you are gloomy, don’t focus on the other party.  It is you, who are responsible for the situation. A famous proverb says, “If you laugh, the whole world will laugh with you, but if you weep, you have to shed tears alone.”  You need to search out for a better option to come out from any impasse.

In our lives, we face two choices.  One is anti-other thinking, and another is pro-self thinking. The anti-other thinking provokes you to the path of animosity. You will be in a mood to argue with others, to oppose any suggestion without analyzing the pros and cons of the issue, like to irritate others and not allowing others to finish their words, and finally, you descend to the brute level.  The pro-self thinking makes you reach a higher realm, where your behavior will be very rational and less aggressive. The art of forgiveness is a full stop because thereafter you have to start afresh. But the attitude to take revenge will bring peril to you; otherwise, you cannot enjoy a quiet life. Further, forgiveness will increase the chance to reduce bitterness, if not eliminated entirely, whereas revenge will escalate the tension in a relationship. Forgiveness makes you think positively uninterruptedly while hate fosters ill feelings and negativities. And the negative thoughts will bring disharmony in your mental pattern. Many people believe that forgiveness is a characteristic trait for a weak person.  It is advisable to take tit-for-tat approach.  But this approach is not a solution to any problematic issue. Forgiveness closes any problem once for all, whereas tit-for-tat attitude aggravates and prolongs it.  Some people think that forgiveness will provide an urge to continue with wrongdoings, but this thinking has no iota of truth.  In the long run, forgiveness always wins the battle. In fact, history has also shown us this proposition.  Psychology shows us that we are born with ego and a conscience.  If you adopt the policy of tit-for-tat, it creates resentment and inflates other person’s ego, whereas if you follow the art of forgiveness, it will activate the other person’s conscience. It is an established hypothesis that in any controversial matter, the conscience always plays a decisive role.  Forgiveness and revenge are two different moral cultures. If you practice the forgiveness policy, you will be instrumental in developing a clean, better and healthy society where positive values flourish and the spirit of brotherhood are evident, and where groups join and turn the nation into a peaceful entity. The outcome of revenge will bring just the opposite.  A hate culture produces bitterness, hatred, jealousy and occasionally anarchy, which is not good for human beings. In this culture, everyone wants to topple others, which creates the growth of a not at all healthy environment. 
We are bound to do something wrong in our lives.  The common proverb “To err is human,” is always to be in our conscience, but that does not mean taking revenge will be the solution to an unresolved issue.  That will develop the tenacity to do mistake after mistake.  Contrarily, when you take the path of forgiving others, you correct the wrongs with rights.  If err is human, forgiveness is more human.