Have
you ever thought why your productivity is not very high as you desire? Further,
why you fail to achieve the target in your life? What makes you scowl when you fall short of
any output irrespective of your getting sufficient input? What is the reason and why most of the time;
you curse your luck for any set back?
The reason is that the happenings in your life do not depend on others;
it is entirely of your own creation and your reaction to the happenings, which
brings in either joy or distress. In management education, your teachers teach
the theory of probability of 80-20, life is also governed by the same theory.
The occurrence of twenty percent is all by habits, regular practice and the dictum of your parents, peers, teachers or
friends, but the eighty percent happens to you how you react to a particular situation. For example, for an issue of family feud, if
you are silent and your reaction is neutral, you won’t have to face any unpleasant
scenario. May be the consequences of the feud will die on its own. But if you
react strongly, take part with a grumpy face and support one member knowing
that he is not correct, the acrimonies will increase and pervade the atmosphere and
vitiate the peace of the house at that particular moment. This is only an
example. In fact, for most of the
situations where we get entangled with wrangling, the same is our own creations,
which destroys our energy and we lose our productive hours. And after losing
the productivity, when the situation goes beyond the control, we finger and
accuse others to create this volatility. We then vociferate that what a life,
it is! But if you closely monitor, who
is responsible? It is you and your retaliatory approach which only affects your life’s growth.
In
today’s nuclear family lifestyle, this is much more prevalent. The parents are sharply reacting and
criticizing each other in front of their children and the siblings are reacting
between themselves for one or the other disputes. Many times, these are creeping
up due to pressure to discharge duties of our lives. The students are burdened
with the load of studies; the parents are bogged down by the pressure of work
in offices and at the same time in houses. All these circumstances lead to a
reaction of an unfavorable attitude which causes disharmony in relationships and agitate your mind. This is
more relevant to the younger generation as they do not react nonchalantly to
each and every state of affairs in their lives.
Take
the case of todays generation. Why they react so sharply to each incidence? Who
are their role models? What is their
lifestyle and perception of their lives?
Are they very critical of the behavior of their parents? How they define
the meaning of various responsibilities entrusted to them? Are they willing to share the same
spontaneously or willy-nilly? What
ethics and morality they like to envisage from their life? What is the meaning of spirituality to
them? Are they open to various religions
and trust the other religion? Are they
open to differentiate between truth and false?
Are they believers of integrity and lead a frugal life? Do they feel for brotherhood? What are their values towards relationship
bonding between family members, marriage, social mingling, parenting and
children? How much sensitive they are to
other’s distress and pain? All these
questions are needed to be introspected to find out the reason of their sharp
and instant reaction to any situation.
If
you analyze, you will find that we waste
a huge amount of energy to react and ultimately spoil the relationship. The
derogatory comments of others, which even includes parents, teachers, superiors
and friends, the mind becomes provoked and ultimately loses its tranquility. This
hampers both who are involved in this
unwanted practice of commenting and you for showing your sharp reaction to the same. For example, when you show your disrespect to
your parents, teachers or your friends, even though they inflict you wrongly,
if you keep quiet and take the same as a passing phase of your life, you will
be able to save your energy to consume the same for productive work.
Contrarily, if you react and take vengeance and retaliation, you waste your
valuable time perhaps sacrificing your important duties. These unwanted
activities will whistle away your precious time and the same will carry a huge
social cost on your life.
In
today’s competitive world, one is always eager to surmount others and in this
process ensure to resort all sorts of temptations to earn quick money to become
rich within no time or to vaunt wealth to the society and react sharply, if
they find their desires are not getting fulfilled. Many become ferocious to
achieve their said goal of prosperity by demeaning others that ultimately
today’s society follows a more retaliatory approach to each other. But these are also self created. By stopping the behavior of reacting sharply
and bluntly, if the situation is handled based on a conciliatory approach, many
problems can be eliminated at the initial stage itself.
To
do so, each of us has to increase the tolerance power. If we inculcate this
self disciplinary habit in our course of lives, starting from individual,
corporations, citizens, communities, societies at large, automatically, each of
us will be flourishing with a remarkable achievement rate and the wrongdoings
will be less as well unethical approaches will be minimized.
But
unfortunately, the eighty percent of the events steam up due to the less
tolerance power, which is the major cause to pollute the society and its
habitants. So, if you want to lead an
exemplary life, don’t react eighty percent time of your life, sedate your mind
to become glittery and invest more time for productive output. Then people will
follow you as a role model.
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