Wednesday, December 16, 2015

How to be happy even you are gloomy?


Who does not want to be happy? If you are able to identify even a poor fellow who does not have any shelter, clothes and no provision of two times of food, he too has a tremendous hunch or desire to become happy. There are people  who are poor, stay in a one room house, somehow manage to earn a few thousands and discharge their worldly responsibilities and feel happy whatever minimum they have. They don’t grumble, don’t mutter about their poor conditions and they always laugh. They believe in a theory, “If you cannot cure, you endure.”  Psychologically, all of us want more and more comforts in our lives. We always search for various avenues that will make us jubilant.  Most of the people spend a considerable time on mental masturbation how to be happy perpetually. Despite their longings, they are always drenched in one or the other kind of sufferings. If somehow they receive the blessings of happiness by God grace, it does not make them happy as they want the same perpetually. No one likes to face sufferings, it comes as an inevitable outcome of very many circumstances in which neither you have any control nor you can impose any restriction.

 

Most of us seek happiness through the fulfillment of various wishes, but such inclination is not always guaranteed.  When you chase your desires to become happy, you may not get it all the time, as metaphorically the bright sun is  also eclipsed by dark clouds many times.  During this intermittent stage, you feel anxious, perturbed and sad which deprives you from happiness.  All the sufferings are the derivatives of your non-fulfillment.  When you have multifarious desires, you seek the pleasure of the world with abundance.  This enthusiasm to receive happiness only brings sufferings. Human beings are subject to change in conditions.  The impulsive behavior arises when you do not have any control on your mood.  At some point, you feel happy and at some other times, you feel gloomy and become sadist and downhearted.  These mood swings favorably, if desires are fructified and if not, then it brings sufferings. When you are satisfied, it gives a momentary happiness, but it is not a long lasting.  Immediately after that, you may be engulfed with anxieties. Your mood can swing your behavior. If you want to be happy all the time, you must learn the techniques to ascertain nihilism in everything. If you don’t have any longing to receive any extraordinary materialistic comforts, say you are not crazy to stay in a palatial house, you have no greed for costly wardrobe, gadgets or you don’t have desire for gold and silver jewelry and also you don’t have any greed to dine in swanky eateries, then you are not bothered about your sensual comforts.  So, why you will be afflicted with painstaking situations? When there are no painful situations, there are no sufferings.  And in the absence of sufferings, you are always happy. In reality, of course, it does not happen.  Desire is a wicked friend of yours.  It leads you to illusion.  Under this illusory influence, you get addicted for greed inviting pains. On the contrary, less desire or no desire makes you like a rock.  You are then neither moved by pleasure nor by sorrows. You are not upset by the onslaught of the opposites.  If you become steadfast and continue to sail your boat in the stream of no avarice, you will be able to get true happiness.    


 

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On the basis of the strength of your character, if you can say no to all the materialistic comforts, costly gadgets, expensive clothing, posh houses and wealthy living, you will tap the unfailing inner source of eternal and never ending blissful status. Believe it or not, the above phenomenon is not based on the glamorous objects of the world, but is completely based on your distinct spiritual knowledge of self-realization. But when  your no desire syndrome becomes  a mere showmanship, then you will not be able to accrue the benefit of perpetual happiness. The reason is that you apparently show no desire, but in reality, you crave to obtain the comforts and want to be happy.  So, this is a dual game played by you, which may make you happy for the time being, but not for long. True happiness starts when you learn the art of right adjustment to other persons and their needs. This right adjustment depends on your tenacity to forget your own identity. This value system of yours increases when you show genuine love for others.  When you reach this stage in your life, you learn the importance and influence of spirituality and convert a life of limited self into a life of love.  When you show a life of love, you reach the stage of God-realization, which provides you unlimited mental happiness and bliss. The happiness of God-realization must be the goal of all creations. You cannot visualize and understand the feeling of this stage unless you experience Godhood. Through this route, when happiness arrives in your life, you will not curb  to face any types of physical and mental sufferings of this world.  In the midst of sufferings, under the experience of Godhood, you will feel, as if there are no sufferings at all. It may not be possible for all of us to be God-realized, but still, you can focus to control your mind through yoga practice and meditation. Slowly you will reach a stage, where you will be able to allow your all pains to pain you without making you unhappy. When one becomes God-realized and attain the stage of Godhood, everything will become insignificant to him.  The happiness on the stage of God-realized is self-sustained, ethical, pure, fresh, boundless and indescribable. You will be perpetually happy, if you show your non-attachment to all the possible attachments and desire to attain God-realized state in your life.

 

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