Friday, December 25, 2015

Can you survive without telling lies?



Is there any limit to tell lies?  Do you think that you can tell lies as and when you need?  Or, you lie just for the purpose of surviving and saving yourself from an unpleasant situation. Have you anytime analyzed the fact why do people lie? The other day, I heard my neighbor’s wife scolding his son for telling lies. She cautioned her son about the ill consequences of this behavior. With a screaming voice, she said, “When you tell lies, you invite  trouble. A monster with horns on his head with red eyes will drag you from your bed during night and punish you mercilessly.  I am damn sure, you won’t tell lies further.” The son assured his mother with a promising tone that he will not repeat the mistake. Thereafter the son replied with a simper, “Mom who is punishing you when you tell lies on a daily basis.” I find her mother sneak away.

There are many reasons to take this route in life. People want to protect their image and after committing a mistake, try to cover the same telling lies. For example, you have studied seriously, which is required to pass the final examination. Still, your scorecard shows poor result and you are lying to your parents to avoid admonition. The wife spends more than the stipulated house budget and suppresses the fact to his husband to avoid an embarrassing situation. A friend has not disclosed his being sacked from the job just not to dilute his importance to his friend circles. All these reasons, which cause one  to tell lies is understood, though not that justified.  It is true that these lies are not at all a part of a cognizable offense, but telling lies repeatedly will make you to do so again and again and you will be addicted.  Once you become a habitual liar, it will be difficult to come out from this well laid out traps. Further, after telling lies, when you want to protect yourself just to avoid being caught always escalates your anxiety and mental tension.  You develop a strain on your brain. Your mind is getting burdened with unnecessary thoughts, anxieties and the feeling of hurts. Ultimately, your creative door is getting closed.

To avoid telling lies, you have to  increase knowledge and understand the root cause why you lie? And also to understand the difference between “Knowledge and Being.” The knowledge will increase your self-confidence level. In that state, even you fail, you will not like to lie. Simultaneously, you have to put  efforts to increase your “being.” When you can transform the knowledge into “being”, knowledge will be almost like limitless information. You will be enlightened to get influenced by this transformation and metamorphosis. You can acquire any subjective knowledge or objective wisdom, though it is a painstaking situation.  But once you are able to realize the different kinds of “beings,” which is your present information about your life, you will understand the moral value of life. Your life is consisting of good, pure, inspiring and transparent essence. All others are created by you. When you reach this stage, there will be no need to tell lies. Of course, there are people who seldom tell lies because of their proximity to ideal living.

One should not create a cognitive dissonance  and  must understand the real difference between the “existence” and  “being.” Many people confuse between these two high level intellectual discourse. For example, the building exists, the tree exists, human beings exist, but each of their existence is quite different. When we say being, it means the originality, whereas the existence is from birth.  Let us take examples of some domestic pets like dogs, cats and cows.  All these animals have a common existence.  But the being of a cat or a cow is quite different.  Being is a subject of a realization of inner thought and that's tantamount to evolving realities and evolving presences. This sequence of reality is applicable for every living beings. If you get hurt by invective words uttered by some of your close friends, the situation becomes little boisterous for the time being. It may be unpleasant for both of you to handle that moment with ease.  It  shows the level of one’s being.  If you retaliate and raise your anger, the tension will be mounting up, but if you condone then you are showing your magnanimity. So, you display your side of being, which is at a higher level than another person. The other person who has a lesser level of being will take a path of lying while narrating this acrimonious incident to others.

If you are a selfish type, it shows your being at a certain level.  Why the religious persons  who are mostly termed as a sage and monks have a very high level of beings?  Because of their maintaining sacred life, doing all the deeds as per the moral code of conduct and serving the human beings and non-living beings, they reach that level. Though, it is a mater of judgement to understand the being, it provides an immense chance for growth for anyone. How you will be able to work on your being?  By practicing the fundamental and core values of life related to habits, thoughts and showing your inclination towards  spiritualities. You can then transform and support the process of transformation in daily life.  Try to reach the level of higher dimension from a lower one, so that you need not to lie at all for your survival. Initially, you may prefer to lie to get your job  done by others, enjoy the comforts and surpass them. But in the long run, it will create more unpleasant outcomes. So, if you  practice and embrace upon the ideal path of living, your tenacity to lie  will be gradually diminished and finally eliminated.

  

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