To
lead a life more practical and
realistic; we must come out from fear psychology. Many times, for no good a reason, we are
afraid that we may lose our assets, bank deposits, our families, our
reputations and various other things to whom we cling very passionately. This
fear sometimes may be baseless, but still, we are perturbed and lead our lives
wrapped in anxieties.These anxieties make us less confident to take our
decisions in the right direction, which is one of the belligerent reasons for
failures in life and finally we get
entrapped in chaos. Have you ever thought the reality of this fear? You will find that you are in turmoil of
absurdities and accordingly you are conditioned both physically and psychologically
to think negatively. And, ultimately your thoughts are in swirl and twirl curve
make you panicky to focus on the irrelevant rather than relevant issues and finally,
you embrace the fearful path. Your conditioning is formed out of your past knowledge,
which is being imparted to you initially by your parents, close family members
and then society’s influence. This imparted knowledge is based on various
ideas, sanctity of the same is sometimes dubious. Through various debates, may
be supported by logical conclusions, you are forced to accept the sanctity of
those ideas. You then continue with the reality of those ideas despite their absurdities.
As and when you face a situation based on these circumstances, you land in
a fearful syndrome. For example, the
idea of getting slipped from a water logged staircase could lead you in a
painful situation, which is evolved in your mind first psychologically and you
take cautious steps. Despite it, you
fall down and you get hurt and caused you
physical pain. Now the above issue of
psychological pain, which you hold makes you more alert and perhaps, you are
ensnared in fear and ultimately fall down. If you are able to free yourself
from the fear itself, as stated above, life will not be perilous at all.
Fear
is always known as some type of odd entities.
It is an accumulation of many physical and psychological aspects. Our
knowledge, if gathered correctly and methodically, then we can avoid fear and
pain. For example,the medical knowledge provides us enough assurances and
beliefs, which can save us from psychological pain. But you are not at all
interested to throw your beliefs, whether they are authentic or ruffled one.
The
fear is developed in your life when you crave for something. Supposed, you want to be a rank holder in a
competitive examination and you study sincerely without any distraction of
external objects. But many times, your
conditioning of the mind, provoke you to think whether you will be able to hold
a rank or not. This craving makes you to
wear many masks at different times, depending on your confidence level to achieve
the ultimate goal. When you wear a mask of satisfaction, you are not afraid. The
opposite of this means when you wear a mask of doubtful result or negative one,
you are in a vulnerable situation and submerged in the failure of fear. From
this point onwards, you are under the influence of fear and many conflicts, contradictory situations and
opinions arise in your mental system. No
doubt, you want to avoid this syndrome. Sometimes, you like to be alone to ensure that
you get rid of fear. It never
happens. If you run away from the
situation of conflicts to avoid fear, it will chase you. You have to understand
the conflicts, take the same in your stride and if required, reconditioning your
conscience, which needs to be done to make the life more strong.
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You
need to throw the mask, which you mentally wear causing your dissatisfaction.
If you cannot get rid of the situation immediately, try to be calm and wait for
the situation becomes diluted. Fear is such a thing that it will suppress your
all enthusiasms. Under its influence, your cowardice will increase and put you
in a cloistered mental frame. You will feel lonely and this loneliness, of
course, is your own creation. This loneliness will further create emptiness. When
you continue to feel this stage in your life, there will be an endless
conflict. No sooner you recognize this fact of loneliness, which basically
happens when you grapple with fear, you can free yourself from this enemy of
fear. Why people fear? If you ascertain the fact, this fear is
related to an idea and this idea is the response of a memory already stored in your mental system
as thought. This thought is the result
of your experience. You can think of
your past, present and future converted to your loneliness, busyness, emptiness
and fullness. With all your memories
related to the sequential pattern of life’s paradoxes and its painful incidence
and pleasure will force you to form many different ideas. These ideas, when expressed in words either
make you jubilant or afraid. Further,
once the words are expressed, there is no sign of the same and then
relationship between the experiencer and the experienced gets different. We always crave to be successful. In this pursuit, we become afraid whether our
success is sure or we will be besmeared
with utter failures.
This
craving only induces the intensity of fear and instead of our focus on the
subject, we hover in fear. Now, if you
do not fear, that does not mean you are courageous or fear disappears. You must find out the reason of fear and then
analyze the same. In the process of this understanding, you will observe that
people become fearful because fear is a subjective issue. It depends on your
memories, ideas, unpleasant thoughts and extraordinary zeal for achieving your
target. Your complete dependence on the
above things causes fear. Further, this
dependence is basically because of your ignorance of the lack of your self-knowledge
and your fight with the circumstances you face in your life. These circumstances are either of your own
creation or others thrust upon you. The others are able to convert various unfavorable
circumstances when you are deprived of your elementary skills and rudimentary
truth behind the creation of the circumstances by others.
Fear
causes a disharmony between the mind and the heart and ultimately preventing
communication and understanding. You have to increase your power of self
awareness by meticulous planning and learning about human behavior and social
interaction. In this way, you can comprehend the cause of fear, whether the
same is genuine or artificial. Fear is
derived in two ways; either it is acquired or it is inborn. Mostly, the
acquired one is related to the past. If
it is inborn, then the same is to be eliminated by the proper tutelage of
parents, teachers and family members. By increasing the confidence level from
the childhood stage itself, this inborn bad behavior is to be discarded. When it is an acquired one, one has to forego
the feeling of the unpleasant incidence of the past. The best way is you must submerge yourself in
the present sphere of life so much that the past is not able to shroud you at
all.
The
beauty of fear, that fear itself is false, then why to fear? Just challenge and conquer it.
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