People must know how to behave with children

Parents always complain of the idiosyncrasies and irrational attitude of their children. Needless to say, despite their love for them, many times, they find difficult to tolerate their children. Many parents show their frustration openly and whine away their  impertinent behavior. Some parents react strongly and take strict disciplinary measures only to find that their children become more incorrigible and adamant in their demeanor. They murmur, saying that these children  cannot do anything in their lives and their future looks to be gloomy. But they seldom find anything wrong with their own pattern of behavior and introspect their dealing with children. They also accuse the youth generation. They are not able to realize the fact that  maintaining a smooth relationship with the children invariably begin with the parents.  If they show attachment to the feeling of children, appreciate their needs, praise in public whenever they do commendable jobs and reprimand them in close door, then they do not have to mumble about children’s behavior.

Since, most of the  parents are not aware how they should treat their children intellectually with perfection and the constant pressures exerted by them on their children, they virtually snatch their freedom. And in the long run, such unilateral behavior of the parents will make their children adamant.  The most important fact is not to correct the children, but to change the emotional behavior of the parents itself.  To every child, their parents are the most adorable figures; they learn, emulate and follow every aspect of their lives from their parents only and so, the parents must be very careful in their own behavior.  They have to take all necessary steps to straighten their relationship with their children.  The parents must study their inherent weakness and make a correction of the same and watch the repercussion of the same psychologically with the traits of their children.  In this way, they can develop and increase the confidence of their children and they will be more attached to their parents and share their feelings.  When the children take their parents as friends, the relationship will become very healthy. In a healthy relationship, there will be no bitterness and the parents will also not have grievances of children’s unruly behavior, because that will not happen mostly.

Parents must understand the emotional and psychological need of children. In the adolescent stage, children’s minds are very soft and amenable and if the parents exert their force on their tenderness, the results will  desultory. Children are mostly prone to grasp anything from the influence of their external world. The power of grasping knowledge will be very high at birth and slowly the same power will be diminished as the age grows.  And when a person becomes very aged, this power simply vanishes. This is one of the reasons why young generations absorb any technologies, inventions, studies, trends, fashions, ideas and ideologies faster than the older people. Because when you become old, your receptivity becomes slow and so, your grasping power becomes less effective. This disparity in absorption between the old and the young is known as a generation gap.  Hence, the older people or the parents in particular, see this world, feel the happenings of the world and observe the various activities altogether in a different manner as compared to the younger people, particularly children.

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The incongruity between the older and the younger generation with respect to thoughts, its analysis, implement and taking action are completely an asymmetrical and hence, there will be an argument, altercation, confrontation and conflicts between the children and their parents.  Parents see the manifestations of lives through their understanding and force children to obey the same without much bothering what the children want. This ideological difference creates the gap between the two generations. The root-cause of this gap lacking of understanding on both sides creates a strain and practically sometimes destroys the sweet relationship between the parents and the children.

We must appreciate the extraordinary ability of the children. They pass through endless energy, which is incomparable to that of their parents.  Children find their parents tired, serious, in a mode of combat and not that interested to hear the logical notions of their thoughts.  Parents do not find any reason to accept their children’s freedom and they predict that their children are wrong. The adults will be always plagued with their anxieties, tensions, and fears for children’s success in their education, proper upbringing, profession and sustainability.  Parents are always perplexed with the above syndrome and the gap with their children widens.  In order to reduce the unnecessary tensions, parents want to exercise control over the children’s tireless activities and want to put restrictions.  The remedial solution in this type of social problem is not to stifle children’s activities, but closely observe their whereabouts and to provide a correct and ideal direction and suggestion to carry forward those activities.  So, parents must learn the techniques how to cope with the difficulties of children and they must impart the knowledge of higher values of life.  Parents also must practice these values. With the knowledge of these higher values, parents can educate the children and help them to flow their energy and streamline the same in a right direction.  By admonishing, scolding or by rebuking, the relationship will be stale.  Contrarily, the parents must provide the value education rather than giving only sermons, which children do not like at all.  Why some parents fail to keep a good relationship with their children?  Because the parents fail to comply with various norms of ideal living, but try to pester their lip services to them how to lead an effective life.  Children do not like this hypocrisy.  Instead of showing reverence, they develop hatred. So, to set right relationship, the parents must lead a balanced and ideal life, which they expect their children to follow.  For example, if you are an alcoholic and consume the same in front of your children or your children are aware of this behavior, you cannot expect your children not to indulge in the said activity once they become adult.  Parents are the best and living examples for their children.  So, they must set their own standards first, which they want their children to follow.  In that case, there will be very less conflicts, and there will be a loving relationship between the two generations.  Ultimately, the gap will be also reduced, if not gets eliminated. In short, parents must know how to behave with their children in a right manner to create a peaceful environment in house.