Insecurity is your greatest enemy

Most of us have a tendency to ponder for various types of insecurities in our lives. Even something worst might have not happened, but we start to think of the crisis and our enemy Mr. Insecurity grapples and makes us gloomy. At times we become so sensitive that we contemplate to even suicide. Feeling insecurity may turn you to a gradual negative thinker and you will not be only afflicted with mental disharmony, but also your physical health will be substantially deteriorated. Further, this feeling will be having catastrophic consequences in professional, personal and social domains. Insecurity derives mostly from unwanted anxieties. It is true that life is not a smooth path. There will be turmoil, anxieties, constraints and various impediments. But one has to know the techniques how to overcome the same. Truly speaking, all the negative consequences derived out of various bad situations do not bring the insecure feeling at all. But the thoughts related to the impending anxieties only make us more conscious and we become tense and insecure. At that stage, many unwanted questions repeatedly crop up in our mind. What will happen?  How will we survive?  How will we face all these troubles?  All these questions only make us insecure.  For example, we fear about loss of a job, we fear about the loss of our wealth, name, reputation and even loss of our beloved family members and all these happen more often than not what we really obtain from those perils.   

The various disorders due to anxieties are based on  exaggerated neurobiological sensitivity, which is a cognitive affinity towards information flow whether the same is correct or not. If this neurobiological sensitivity happens regularly in your life, it will lead you to stress syndrome and chronic inflammation of your body and mind. It will make you look old and haggard and restless despite your real age. You will be proven to be a stressful person and your temperament will always be out of control. Most of the time, you will be feeling irritated and on a slightest provocation, you will outburst.  There are end numbers of medical cases when you or anybody might have observed that young, otherwise healthy individuals suffer a heart ailment or a heart attack because they are unable to control their anxieties or insecurity feelings. This insecurity is in direct proportion to the degree of attachment. The more you are attached to anything or any relationship, the more you will be unsettled towards that particular aspect. In a love and hate relationship, you will observe this sequence more predominantly.  For example, for your commute to your working place, you require a car. You have its possession by an arrangement of the loan. After a short while, you become too much possessive to acquire a particular brand of high end model, which is beyond your means, but you manage that particular swanky car. In that case, you will be definitely inviting trouble for your financial health. And this trouble will lead you to insecure feeling in the near future. You will be tempted to think whether your decision to purchase a higher end model is justified or not. At a subsequent stage you lose this precious item, means you are not able to afford the luxurious item any more; you feel insecure and become sad and pale.

In our life, we do much wrong and take these types of impulsive decisions. Ultimately, our these decisions land us into depression. Remember that indulgence is not a bad habit, but craving for the same and fear of losing it, is awful. There is a famous adage that the monk need not to sell his Ferrari. He has to only convince and subjugate his mind for not showing limitless attachment to the same. Insecurity always makes us crave for attachment to some specific things. This particular trait thrives on attachment. Our spiritual gurus preach us to make ourselves as dispassionate human beings. We should not be a passionate person to cling to anything, which only makes us more insecure. Except spirituality, you should not be attached to any worldly affairs more than its need. That extra attachment will bring insecurity.

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In the case of spirituality, the more and more attachment will not be harmful at all because spirituality does not bring any depravity. When you show the attachment, the same is much more than self-denial. You need a lot of mental courage and fortitude to convince you for the denial.  It is not a phenomenon of abstinence.

In today’s fast paced life, we require name and fame and want to make a fortune quickly.  Our energy always propels us for competitive mindset, provoke us  in unscrupulous race, only care for self-growth and ardent desire for position and hierarchy in corporate entity. All these factors make us to run pillar to post and when the goals are not met through, the fire of insecurity engulfs us. Insecurity is a damaging consequence. It can trouble you ceaselessly. Insecurity predisposes one to act recklessly and the outcome of the same is terribly disastrous. When people reach that stage, they are termed as hyper or in layman’s language as short tempered.  If you happen to mingle with these types of persons or if they are your colleagues or even life partners, you must be very careful in dealing with them. Such people sometimes may create unpleasant situations. We are aware with two quotients, namely emotional and intelligent.  Apart from these two influencing factors, which mostly determine the pros and cons of  our lives, there is another quotient exists. The same is known as security quotient. One must be taught of this psychological aspect how to combat against various unruly scenes in life. There is a specific point positioned in the hypothalamus that decides the level of our satiation. Some people are satisfied easily and some others are always disgruntled despite everything they have. We always debate whether we should be easily contended or we should be  very ambitious to achieve our goals after goals. If you are very passionate in your work or to your studies or to some extra curriculum activities, the same should not be considered as a precursor of excessive attachment.  Rather, it should be treated as a blessing. But If  you cling very much to the end results of all your said efforts, the same is damaging, because once you are being deprived of your desired fruits of your efforts, you start feeling completely insecure. The flame of your desires is just inflamed by the allurement and greed of your attachment.  In other words, contentment is one of the effective ingredients of your well being both mentally and physically and it will save you from  insecure feeling.