Wednesday, August 5, 2015
Art of giving and make others happy
Some people always believe to give. They want to share their knowledge, suggestion, advice and even money in the form of charity to the people who need the same. In turn, the giver does not want any favor or benefits in return. They are the people who are altruistic types. After giving whatever they can offer, they share the joy spontaneously with the others. On the contrary, there are some people who also give, but with a wish to get something in return. The percentage of these people are more. Apparently, they show their elation after distribution, but their joyous demeanor is not that glittering because it is colored with selfish thoughts. When you present a gift to your beloved person, have you noticed his immediate expression? His face gets flashed with a smile, giving you also a pleasure. As per the principle, the more you give; you share your things with others, the more you will become happy. You will be rich in your happiness. Anne Frank rightly says, “No one has ever become poor by giving.” Most of us are very much concerned with our own motives of benefits. We always seek our own comforts first. Our nature is self centered and the gatekeeper of our various thoughts is the creator of all our unhappiness. Many are actually ill, because of their self-centredness. If you observe with a closer look, you will find that the happiest people in the world are those who most of the time, make them busy to do good for others. They think so much for other’s well beings that they do not have much of time to think of their own happiness. These people understand the art and philosophy of giving. When someone gets into the habit of thinking for others without expecting anything for his own, he becomes fearless because he is not worried of his needs or his desire for anything. He gets enjoyment to serve others, to give all he can do to others, to extend his services to his neighbors, his friends, his acquaintances. Since, he gives, he gets. His life returns more to him spiritually, religiously and even materialistically though he does not show any sensual attachment for his comfort. He feels rich and satisfied by only giving.
People often say, “I shall start giving after all my responsibilities are over, after all my debts are repaid and after I accumulate some more money.” It sounds like a hollow and baseless talk and by saying this, people try to find out excuses to avoid this activity. The giving something to someone is an art and it must come from your inner self, which should never be influenced by any outward environment or it cannot be a subjective condition. The bible says, “Give, and it shall be given unto you.” Nothing can change this eternal fact. We have to plant first and then reap the benefit of a good harvest. Unless you plan for a good planting, you cannot expect a rich harvest. Whenever you give, you should give it wholeheartedly and with the purity of your mind. You should not bother about your own consequence. God is there; He is watching your activities and He will provide all the necessities for you as and when you require the same. By His help, you will definitely accrue benefits for your sacrifice and charities in one or the other form. You have to wait and have faith in yourself and in God to get the accrual. Ignatius Loyola says, “Teach us…… to give and not count the cost.” Life is like a current in which prosperity is a flow, happiness is a flow and love is a flow. As per the law of life, first is given and then it is the time of receiving. Abundance is what is circulating through our life. Say, you have a large saving in your bank account, but you are not using it, then you are not enjoying the real benefit of the same except earning an interest. Logically, you are the custodian of this saving, but you are receiving absolutely nothing from it. Your satisfaction must come from your mental enjoyment, not from your materialistic power or your authoritative power. The mental enjoyment comes from the act of your giving without you hunch to get something back. Harold Abbott says, “Do something for somebody, somewhere, while jogging along life’s road. Help someone to carry his burden and lighter will grow your load. Do something for somebody, gladly; it will sweeten your every care.”
Today we live in a world, which is full of unequality. Some people are extraordinarily rich and enjoy their lives with grandeur and mirth without much bothering about the underprivileged sections. Then there are people who have money. They manage their lives comfortably. They devote their time for charities and philanthropic activities and always take part in various programs to serve who are in distress. Other than these two types, there are people who remain below the line of poverty and depend on the charities and financial help of wealthy people. Unfortunately, their numbers are more. Now, some of these financially solvent people extend their cooperation and help to uplift the poor segments and take pleasure in these types of activities. When they talk and become busy with these activities, of benevolence, their countenance expresses how happy they are and at the same time, the people who are benefiting from their charitable deeds; they smile and bless them from their heart. The blessings of so many people when showered on them, they become joyous. In fact, they achieve their purpose of giving as they are the true believers of the “art of giving.”