Saturday, May 14, 2016

Control emotion to achieve success in life


How do you define the intensity of your emotion? Is it a benchmark of your true identity?  If you perform all your functions starting from wake up to retiring at night in an ideal and perfect way, you are a follower of rules and regulations of moral living. So your every moment in your life, if you utilize perfectly, you will get effective output.  Why is it so?  Because all the functions, which you perform daily, you act with utmost sincerity. But most of us fail to follow this pattern of behavior. We perform our various functions as the mere performers. Just for the purpose of doing, we act, for example, somebody smiles; you also reciprocate your instant gesture by providing a return smile, which might not be an act of from your heart.  You are doing a showmanship.  You may not want to smile, but since the other person is a reputed one in the society and a quite influential man, you act and so, you smile.  What you have done; you smile showing a good gesture. It has no real emotion. In another way, he has pampered you by smiling, and you are being cajoled to give a return smile.



If you analyze the issue closely, you will find that it is a matter of exchange of pleasantry. He has expressed his positive vibe, which you have acknowledged in a controlled manner.  You have judged his emotion and retorted back.  Now, if you analyze your emotional effect in depth, your reciprocating action could be a bargain, trade, and a businesslike attitude or a simple social mannerism. Somebody smiles at you, and you have also done so. Mostly, it is an artificial smile, as if you are giving a smile for the sake of giving, and it will look like an artificial performance. Without utilizing your emotional feeling, you smile. It is just an impromptu act at that particular moment. It has not created any sincere feeling for the other person.  This type of emotion has no sincerity. It is completely hollow as you have manipulated your smile.  There is no authenticity on your part.  In this way, you are manipulating your body and mind, and you are also responsible for his manipulation.  In our society, this type of manipulation is widely spread, and people simply are not able to identify the emotional depth of existence.  Precisely, that is the reason, being religious also; we distract from the spiritualities and functions of the spiritualism.  Quite often, we forget our spontaneity.  We all become artificial.  In this atmosphere, we create the situation of hell.  Your love has no meaning because the same is impure.  Your love is false.  Your hate is false. Your smile is false.  Your feeling is false.  Your tears are false. You are not in a position to take any decision.



The question comes how can you stay in this false environment and enjoy happiness?  Instead of living in artificial surroundings, accept the spontaneity, which comes from your heart. Coming back to the issue of smiling, it was not a sincere smile from your side.  But this type of situation cannot be hidden for a long.  Sooner or later, your pretension or non-spontaneity will come to the surface.  But if you smile with spontaneity, you will feel that your whole being is smiling; only your lips are not taking part.  When you resort to this path of spontaneity, everybody around you during that particular time will glow, and there will be a feeling of friendly atmosphere all around. Since all the people around you will be happy; you will also be happy in the midst of so many joyous people.




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Even emotions need spontaneity.  If positive emotions shown by you are false, they will be treated as a pretense.  In the same way, when the negative emotions showed by you as authentic, the same will be termed as beautiful.  People say anger is a destructive emotion.  But this anger can be termed as nice if your whole beings feel angry. It means that you are not pretending to be angry. If you are really angry, although it is a negative emotion, your all sensations will be vibrant and people will not take you as a bad tempered person. They may appreciate your negative emotion as you are showing spontaneity.  For example, analyze the behavior of a child.  He shouts to fulfill his any need and no sooner his need is satisfied, he stops his little bit unruly behavior. You observe his behavior, and you will find something wrong. When a child becomes angry, he runs from one corner to another, his face will be reddish, he may spit, and he may throw anything he finds nearby.  When his anger subsides, he starts again running, dancing, hugging you, as if nothing has happened.  For an adult, it does not happen. The reason is, most of your actions are false and baseless. There is no spontaneity.  If your anger is real, it lasts for a few seconds.  Why?  Because you are angry for a true cause and there is no false reason behind your anger.  At that point of time, your showing anger is justified.  And your anger will be harmless because it will not continue for long.  If anything evolves with spontaneity, it cannot harm anyone.  The negative emotions are also good if they are authentic.  People have a wrong notion about negative emotions that these are bad and causing dangers both mentally and psychologically. It is bad provided the reason has no truth. But if the negative emotions are authentic, it may transform us. 



If you closely analyze the power of emotions, both positive and negative, you will find that emotion derived on authentic reasons will do well and will not destroy.  All your emotions will become more and more positive and time will come when you are not affected either by positive or negative emotions.  You cling to authentic.  At that stage, you forget to discriminate between good and bad.  You are not bothered what is positive and what is negative? This feeling of authenticity will strengthen your introspection power to search only for the real. And, you have to know the truth. Then, emotions will not mold you; you will mold the emotions as there is no feeling of positive or negative for you.  

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