Man
is a social being. He cannot not want live in isolation. He always prefers to
move with others, share feelings and emotion and want to remain in groups. By
any chance, if he is in a type of claustrophobia, he will not be in a position
to tolerate that particular situation. Of course, there are people who like to
be in isolation because of their mental frame and habits. To avoid isolation,
you must identify the cause of proper living., which is mostly based on your desire to mix with
groups and assimilate others culture with your own. We must fill our lives with
feelings for others and these feelings are the real causes of our mutual
affinity and progress. Logic alone cannot express these feelings. The heart of
the education is education of the heart.
You must inculcate a habit to put cent percent effort to discharge your
duties, whether you perform the same either at office or at home. Only applying
logic and trying to accomplish your duties alone is not possible; you have to
take the help of others, convince them to help you and take other people’s
advice. In the same way, you have to extend help to others when they need. Otherwise,
your accomplishment will not yield any result. You will be treated as a failure
person. To avoid a life of seclusion, you must be emotionally fit and your
emotion must be filled with the power of intellect. Both are dependent on each
other. An emotional phase without
intellect is woeful. We all know that intellectually, life is impermanent. But by
guiding emotions, we feel and expect life to be permanent. So, you must exercise the power of
intellectual to know the causes of emotion, which drives you to perform your
activities and not allow you to remain
in isolation. You do many things and to know the outcome of the same, you
utilize your power of judgement and emotion. For example, you are watching a
movie of your favorite hero or heroine; you enjoy the same and you get elated.
Exerting your feelings, you try to
equate you with the hero, and want to submerge yourself emotionally to the
various scenes of the movie. In this state, you try to find out the
similarities of your personality and the theme of the movie. You like to be
associated with various scenes of the movie mentally. You will find there is an
exchange between the movie and your feelings.
You will feel that the movie is watching you. You will know through your
heart, how the movie is spreading influence for you through its plot, theme and
characters. You will try to understand the meaning of the movie. In the same
way, when you go through any book, you feel the meaning of the various words,
sentences, paragraphs and the contents of the book through your eyes, through
your understanding and through your perception.
Finally, you will appreciate how the book is contributing and is helpful
to increase your knowledge for a particular subject or matter. Can you accomplish your work in this
manner? Can you identify all your
beloved people and connect with them in this way? You must learn many things through your
feelings. It is a continuous process to
keep yourself busy. You have to feel, to think and think to feel. Then whatever you do, it will bring joy and
work becomes a holiday. You don’t need a
break in your life. Your work becomes a movement
of joy. Your holiday or any other rest
day will be full of work and activities, because you are so much engrossed in
that joyful situation. Your feeling of isolation will never appear in your
mind. All will be like a spiritual vacation for you. You must look everything impartially. If you
engage in a quarreling situation with your beloved, you just don’t decide to
leave him. Because, by leaving him, you
are not gaining anything. You continue
to keep your same mind, which has created the conflict. If your mind is polluted, no matter wearing a
nice and clean white shirt will not be responsible for ethical purity. If your mind is not getting out of the
volatilities, you will not be in a position to move friendly with others. Slowly, you will be isolated and forced to
remain in isolation.
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In
the stage of isolation, wherever you visit, whatever you do, whatever you think,
all will produce a fragmented result and you will be always in conflicts. So, the cause of the conflict is not the
other person, but your mind only. Your
mind is incapable to deal properly with the other person because you are
dealing with others being in isolation.
Life
is glamorous, if you see from the fence. If you observe the life within itself,
it is perilous. Sometimes, its
constraints are so severe that it will be like a rising tide bouncing on the
bank of the river and make you to drown.
Any difficulty is like a big tide.
You must know how to deal with it.
So, the root cause of your isolation is not the place itself or not the
environment; it is your mind only. When the same mind can make others gleeful,
why you are not able to bring that syndrome in your life? In a similar
situation, when others become happy, why you are in a dilemma and
invite sufferings? Have you thought anytime? When you use another person for
the purpose of your own gratification, then “I” become more valuable than
“others.” This type of situation occurs
when you quarrel with your beloved, with any of your family members or with your
friend because you give prominence to your own identity. Each of us is using
the other person to meet our demands and needs and this only creates isolation.
This isolation creates conflicts as a fundamental rule of proper living. If you
want to curb isolation, engage in connectivity.
How you will do? Just love, spread love; automatically, there will be
connectivity. Shredded the ego as the
same only brings isolation, which is your number one enemy.
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