People
very often say, “I love you.” Is it possible to change this habit to say more
frequently “I love myself”? Prima-facie,
one may be surprised to note how it is possible that a person does not love himself? But this is a fact. If we all love ourselves first as we try to love
others, we would have not lived in a situation of violence and utter chaotic.
Today, we live in an environment of increasing quarrelsome where most of us
have less trust on the other persons. Sometimes, these other persons include
the parents, close family members, bosoms and next door neighbors. A majority of us are always in the midst of
attacking our own mind, body and consciousness. Take the behavioral pattern of
a child. He hits himself with his small hands when his demand is not fulfilled.
No sooner, his demand is met, he stops this activity. At this small age, he knows how to incite violence to
fulfill his demand. In similar way, a
youth takes drugs to stimulate his body to look attractive, a professional engages
in all types of office politics with one of his close colleagues, so that he gets promotion, an addict can refuse to quit
drinking even though he is aware of the consequences, a severe diabetic may not
leave sweets knowing fully well the same is harmful, a mother-in-law is doing
rough and shoddy treatment to her daughter-in-law for dowry though in the society
meeting, she is the first person to protest
against this dowry system. All these behavioral patterns show that we
like to remain in violent though outwardly we show our magnanimity. Because of this
tendency, the end result is always painful. We suffer physically, mentally and
psychologically. Although all of us are very much cared for the world and its
happenings, in a larger sense, but we lack compassion, feeling and congeniality
and in the absence of the same, whatever we do, it is only a pretension. We
only extend lip service. The brotherhood, which we show for others, does not
arise out of compassion. It is just for the sake of it. Someone, who does not have affection for
himself, how can he understand the need of others and love them? It is simply not feasible. Unless you do not
know the art to love yourself, how will you curb the activities pertaining to
violence at the slightest provocation. The roots of this paradox lie in the
fact that we are not taught of the self-awareness from our childhood. No doubt, we live in a federal society
governed by democracy, but we are the believer of hedonistic culture where the
denizens succumb to the addiction of
drugs, alcohols, tobacco and many other evil vices. Ultimately, the societal
surroundings become higgledy-piggledy and there is an utter confusion and
cultural shock prevails everywhere.
The
mind of the people becomes deranged and start to induce violence, losing the proper identification. This
leads us to a wrong psyche. The person then tortures himself with all types of
malafide desires ignoring the positive aspects of self. He engages himself in
all malicious activities with a malevolent intention. He gets self-pleasure
doing this. Finally, he proceeds towards several dysfunctional behaviors. If
parents, elders and even friends rebuke these types of persons for their
obstructive actions, the same induces their hatred, jealousy feeling and
insolvency.
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Men
are social animals. They prefer to remain in a society and fond of mixing with
others to maintain conviviality. But when we lack the loving feelings for
ourselves, a thinking of benign criticism evolves, which produces malignant
rudeness. It is true that we always want
to remain in an ideal way. We desire for
an ideal image. But most of us fail in
this endeavour. The real self is not so grandeur that we believe or we think it
should be. This difference in perception
escalates the self-hatred. To avoid this
and to sneak away from this environment, we pay our attention to frivolous
issues to get a quick fix solution for all our impending problems. But in this process, we ignore the larger
value of lives. From this point onwards,
we become psychologically demurred and mostly, take part in violence. To get
rid of this self-hatred, we must construct a store house in our mind, of
course, exercising the simulation technique and put more and more love therein. By doing this
exercise, we can use love from this storage space and distribute to others
showing compassion sincerely.
We
have to arouse our self-awareness. Once it is developed, we can utilize the
same to counter attack the wrong identifications of ours and save us from
violence. People must develop empathy
for their body, mind and consciousness and define their needs. These needs are
then to be balanced. We should come out of
the web of wrong and trivial issues and introspect its usefulness. We may cling
to the one, which is mandatory discarding
the others. No sooner we will be able to
reduce our being burdened with these wrong sensual issues, our self
identification will be displayed prominently. Then we will be able to evaluate
our real self, which is lying below the surface of intellectual integrity
prevailing in everyone. People often give negative and sarcastic comments as
the same are their behavioral ingredients. Those are deeply rooted in their
subjectivity. We have to assess these negative
comments before reacting to the same. We have to keep our self image intact and
we should not feel miserable and get bogged down by the various pressures of
the environment. Ultimately, when we
realize who we are and what is our purpose, we will be able to love ourselves.
If every
one of us is in the position to accept this hypothesis, is it not impossible
for us to create an ideal society of non-violent atmosphere? So, the need is to
utter the sentence of “I love myself” frequently. We must train ourselves to
mumble this sentence and act accordingly. Unless you are habituated to
visualize this, there is no sanctity in your saying “I love you.” Why? The
reason is that, if you are able to bring this feeling of self- loving
conceptually, you will love others with your mind and heart automatically. You
need not to tell this sentence to show off.
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