Show
me one person who is not interested to improve, nurture and continue his relationship
with another person. Although, it is extremely impossible to become friendly
with everyone, even from your own circle, but you must try not to antagonize many people. For a smooth and almost trouble free life, this is a prime
need. If you cannot be pally, at least you must control your aggression when
there is a difference in opinion. You must know the technique to maintain a
cordial relationship with others so that people remember you for long. The
fundamental philosophy for you to ensure that your relationship must grow and
become deeper as the time passes. In fact, we all want this syndrome. You must
take the opinion of your partners, family members, neighbors and acquaintances
to see how you manage your mutual relationship. You may take corrective actions, if something is
wrong somewhere. In this way, you can
make your life bright and colorful. It is always preferable not to dilute the relationship as far as possible. We must
keep our relationship and feelings in a positive way with other human beings
and even with animals and non-living entities, i.e. flowers, trees, etc. Your social
and religious life will not make a full circle unless you get the support of
your friends, family and your colleagues who are helpful for your progress. Without
their support, you will not be able to achieve success at all.
If
support does not come, then your social life will be lonely and remorseful. This
relationship is a reciprocating behavior. If you extend your desire, others
will follow. Sometimes you have to take the lead and some other time, they will
follow. In this world, you cannot live
on your own; you are connected with each other. You may be very powerful,
wealthy and famous person, but you need support of love, affection and service
from others. Without the same, you are like a piece of crumbly bread. Many times, we rub the feelings of
others even unknowingly. Once we rub feelings, we continue to ponder on the
misunderstandings and forget the attachment exists between us and the love we
have for each other. Our wrong values of understanding make a wall and
relationship starts getting faded away. Today, we live in an era of tamsik
culture. This braking of relationship is predominantly happening in between
parents and the children and in between the long term friends and companions. With
a single stroke of misunderstanding, your loving relationship breaks and drown like a sinking ship when it
encounters a gusty wind and storms. We forget the smooth relationship, which
was existing earlier all the time.
Doubt
is the number one enemy of our motivation. It also kills our spirit to become a
good person and destroys the nice relationships of ours with others. You may
find happiness and love within you and you must strengthen your desire to establish
the same with others. You have to follow the certain steps to increase the mutual relationship.
The
first step is to remember the name of the other persons, acknowledge their
presence appreciate their efforts for your success and spontaneously praise all
their good things openly in public. Once
you are tuned to do this appreciation, your relationship will be more
sustainable. Secondly, you look at others hurt feelings in a more constructive
and healing way. Immediately you extend your help. Thirdly, in any type of
awkward situations in your relationship with others, you try to set right the
fundamental issues and think for positive outcome using simulation technique.
If you are able to shine a light of positivity, and in that environment talk to the other person bringing the issues
that spoiling the relationship, you will find the outcome very plausible. It
may happen that the relationship revives on the spot.
Gratitude
is one of the major traits in any relationship. It brings a glow and strengthens
the relationship. When you are able to maintain
your relationship with others, both the sides will have joy, fun and
happiness. If you always believe to give your partner a happy smile, he or she
will repay through his or her gratitude.
In this way, you can make your life easy and smooth. Try to question
yourself what your partner, your friend or your boss want from you, which you
can give unlimited. If they become thirsty, are you providing them books? No,
you give them a glass of water, so that they can quench their thirst. If they
feel ennui, you make them to take a rest. When you perform these tasks unconditionally
and without being guided by anybody, you become almost like a sage in their
eyes. What for you are doing these? Just to maintain your cordial relationship
with others. At times, you may have to keep
aside your own needs and indeed support others, particularly when they are in
distress. You have to consider your this behavior, not as an obligation, but as
a service. You should not follow the other person’s advice, if they do not
allow you to act by any chance. It must
be your urge to help others as they really need the same.
The
above is the major tenet to keep relationship grow. And because of this,
despite all the constraints, we are able to feel the warmth of relationship in
today’s world. Though the world is mostly full of selfishness, there are people,
who give tremendous value to this relationship factor. Do introspection and
find out what exists below the surface of feeling, which normally one exerts on
another person. It is the pure and simple love and compassion. Try to provide love for another person as
much as you can and he will be emotional
and speechless and never think to spoil a relationship with you. In turn, he
will like to remain a friend for life long. To start with, let us show this
feeling to our partner first and shower act of kindness, love and care. Then let us
spread the same for our neighbors,
colleagues, friends and community. It all begins with a mutual respect for each
other. The simple creed of our life is, if you make others happy, you are bound
to be happy. Happiness cannot produce
animosity and break the relationship.
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