How to be happy perpetually?

Who does not want to be happy?  Show me one person, who will say that he is not bothered about the happiness?  You are able to identify a poor fellow, who does not have any shelter, clothes and no provision of two times food, he too has a tremendous hunch or desire to become happy. Contrarily, there are people, who are poor, stay in a one room house, somehow manage to earn a few thousands and discharge their worldly responsibilities and feel happy whatever minimum they have. They don’t grumble, don’t mutter about their poor conditions and they mostly laugh to endure all constraints. Psychologically, all of us want more and more and always want to be happy. We always search for various avenues that will make us happy.  Most people spend most of the time on mental masturbation how to be happy perpetually. Despite their longings, they are always drenched in one or the other kind of sufferings.  If somehow they receive the blessings of happiness by God grace, it is neither unadulterated nor make them feel the  satisfaction of happiness on a continuous basis. No one has any inclination to seek sufferings, it comes  as an inevitable outcome of very many circumstances in which neither you have any control nor you can impose any restriction.

 

Most of us seek happiness through the fulfillment of various wishes, but such inclination is not always guaranteed.  When you chase your desires to become happy, you may not get it all the time, as if the bright sun is eclipsed by dark clouds in between many times.  During this intermittent stage, you feel anxious, perturbed and sad, depriving you from happiness.  All the sufferings are the derivatives of your non-fulfillment.  When you have multifarious desires, you seek the pleasure of the world with abundance.  This enthusiasm to receive happiness only brings sufferings. Human beings are subject to change in conditions.  The impulsive behavior arises when you do not have any control on your mood.  At some point, you feel happy and at some other times, you feel gloomy and become sadist and downhearted.  These mood swings favorably, if desires are fructified and if not, then it brings sufferings. When you are satisfied, it gives a momentary happiness, but it is not a long lasting.  Immediately after that, you may be engulfed with anxieties. Your mood can swing your behavior. If you want to be happy all the time, you must learn the techniques to ascertain nihilism in everything. If you don’t have any longing to receive any extraordinary materialistic comforts, say you are not crazy to stay in a palatial house, you have no greed for costly wardrobe, gadgets or you don’t have desire for gold and silver jewelry and also you don’t have any greed to dine in swanky eateries, then you are not bothered about your sensual comforts.  So, why you will be afflicted with painstaking situations? When there is no painful situation, there is no suffering.  And in the absence of suffering, you are always happy. In reality, of course, it does not happen.  Desire is a wicked friend of yours.  It leads you to illusion.  Under this illusory influence, you get addicted for greed inviting pains. On the contrary, desirelessness makes you like a rock.  You are then neither moved by pleasure nor by sorrow. You are not upset by the onslaught of the opposites.  If you become steadfast and continue to sail your boat in the stream of no avarice, you will be able to get true happiness. But the state of complete desirelessness is not that easy to achieve.   

 

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On the basis of the strength of your character, if you can say no to all the materialistic comforts, costly gadgets, expensive clothing, posh houses and wealthy living, you will tap the unfailing inner source of eternal and never ending blissful status. Believe it or not, the above phenomenon is not based on the glamorous objects of the world, but is completely based on your distinct spiritual knowledge and self-realization.  But when your desirelessness becomes only a mere showmanship, you will not be able to accrue the benefit of perpetual happiness. The reason is that you show no desire, but in reality, you crave to obtain the comforts and want to be happy.  So, this is a dual game played by you, which may make you happy for the time being, but not for long. True happiness starts when you learn the art of right adjustment to other persons and their needs. This right adjustment depends on your tenacity to forget your own identity. This value system of yours increases when you show genuine love for others.  When you reach this stage in your life, you learn the importance and influence of spirituality and convert a life of limited self into a life of love.  When you show a life of love, you reach the stage of God-materialization, which provides you unlimited mental happiness and bliss. The happiness of God-realization must be the goal of all creations. You cannot visualize and understand the feeling of this stage unless you experience Godhood. Through this route, when happiness arrives in your life, it is worth to face all types of physical and mental sufferings possible in this world.  In the midst of sufferings, under the experience of Godhood, you will feel, as if there is no suffering at all. It may not be possible for all to be God-realized, but still, you can achieve power to control your mind through yoga practice. Slowly you will reach a stage, where you will be able to allow your all pains to pain you without making you unhappy. And that is the beauty of this God-materialization. When one becomes God-realized and attain the stage of Godhood, everything will become insignificant to him.  The happiness on the stage of God-realized is self-sustained, ethical, pure, fresh, boundless and indescribable. You will be perpetually happy, if you show your non-attachment to all the possible attachments and desire to attain God-realized state in your life.