Today’s world is full of
violence. You never know when people
will become violent. Whether violence takes place because of an argument or
because of animosity or simply because of improper provocation, our society
often passes through acrimony, which ultimately polluting the environment. This violence affects your body and mind as
well. A child may hit himself or throw
whatever he gets when his demand is not met.
In the similar way, a young person may take steroids just to make his
body a little bulky and become little
more charming. There are many other
examples by which you can provoke violence for your own self. For example, you are aspiring to get a
promotion, but your colleague supersedes you and you start consuming liquor to
vent your frustration; then you addicted to a drug knowing that it will cause a
health hazard. Similarly, you are a middle aged person and have a sweet tooth and
despite your having diabetes, you are not able to get rid of sweets. Then again,
you get deceived in love affairs and decide to commit suicide. All these happenings of life are quite
common. People sometimes are not able to
accept the same and start torturing themselves. Violence or torturing makes us
miserable physically, psychologically and also spiritually. We always want to be loved by others, but
when it comes to love ourselves, we become a miser. Why it is so?
Because we believe that others are only supposed to love you. But it is a myth. A person who cannot love himself, who is not
able to understand himself thoroughly, cannot love others. If you want to help others, to give company
to others when they are in distress and want to love others, then you must stop
torturing yourself and be sensible to you first.
We give much importance to the
hedonistic needs of our living. Our mind propels us to search for various
comforts, accomplishment of material desires, name, fame and status quo, so
that we can brag for the same and get prominence in the society. When we are
deprived of these things because of reasons not in our control, we become
gloomy and show despondency. Ultimately,
we start ignoring ourselves, means we start haphazard living and we don’t care
for ourselves. Due to these hedonistic needs,
which are mostly of illusory nature, cause us more harm than benefits. The person
who pursues these needs, ignoring the positive aspects of self and ultimately
starts torturing himself. He then
contemplates to obtain quick pleasure and not able to tolerate any pain. At this stage of life, the person becomes
dysfunctional. His attitude becomes self-centered and if anybody criticizes for
his odd attitudinal behavior, he gets furious and retaliates. Often the positive criticism of others turns
into a hostile negativism for him.
One of the important aspects of
life is that we want to carry an ideal image of ours. We want to prove that we
are good, we possess good mannerism, well
behaved, and in a position to discharge our duties and responsibilities
efficiently. However, because of many
external functions, we fall short of this ideal situation. To obtain an ideal
scenario in life is not so easy. Because of many ups and downs, constraints,
obstacles and impediments, which we face in our life, sometimes we are not able
to cope up and we get disgusted with our lives. All these increases, our
self-hatred. Instead of palliating the problems, we succumb to the same. To get
rid of this self-hatred situation, we give weightage on various trivial issues
as a quick fix and bypass the larger goals.
Though it looks to be a solution, but in the long run, it develops
psychological impulse and instead of reducing the self-hatred, the same gets
escalated.
To eliminate self-hatred and not to
torture your own body and mind, you need to build a storehouse of love and
affection within yourself. It is not so
easy, but you need to practice this behavior. Once you are able to love
yourself, you can expand the same to others. Then you can show a compassionate
approach for all your surroundings. You
will rarely develop a feeling of jealousy, animosity or bitterness. The storehouse of love inside you will
energize you and you will be able to identify yourself and that way, development
of self-awareness will arise. Then you
will be able to bury the wrong notions, which you have created and your
tenacity for self-violence will not be there at all.
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People must develop empathy for
their complete being with respect to their mind, body and consciousness and
focus to its various requirements. You need to forego the trivial issues,
unless the same is must for you to discharge and then introspect for the better
things to vitalize the life. Once you are able to dissociate from the trivial
issues, you will be able to open your real self, which is hidden below the
layer of restless mind and provocative thoughts. People will also afflict you with their
negativities and if you continually mingle with them, you will tend to become a
negative person. Why is it so? Because
the negative pattern of thoughts is deeply rooted in their own
subjectivity. You have to analyze their uttering,
thoughts and expression before you get influenced by their behavior and
attitude. You become steadfast to
yourself and don’t get carried away with other person’s negative thoughts.
Unless you analyze and evaluate the realities, don’t accept the same. Self-work
and self-analysis is a painstaking
effort and a long journey and it requires a lot of patience. Keep peaceful and to maintain the peace all
around is an art. To master this art, you have to ensure to love yourself
wholeheartedly to avoid the self-hatred and violence.
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